The key to confidence, success, and a life you love begins with your relationship with yourself.
It's time to turn your worst critic into your very best friend.
When I was a sophomore in college, my life was full of rocky relationships, but none was as rocky as my relationship with myself. I was the very definition of my own worst critic. Every word that came out of my mouth was followed by a barrage of criticism inside my head, “Why did you say that? You’re so dumb/lame/ignorant/embarrassing/insert insult here.”
It was miserable.
I knew this wasn’t how I wanted to be. I didn’t want to live with my own worst critic anymore. But I didn’t know how to get rid of her.
Worse, I was afraid that if I silenced that critic, I’d be living in denial. I’d have quieted the only voice willing to tell me the truth.
But when we stop and think about it, being our own worst critics isn't facing reality. It's shooting ourselves in the foot.
Have you ever been in a situation where you had to perform? Maybe you were in a school play, or on a soccer team, or giving a speech. Now picture trying to do that with critics yelling at you from start to finish. “You’re stupid, you can’t do this, that wasn’t the right move, what are you doing??” I don’t know about you, but nothing would make me choke faster.
Now picture doing those things in front of a crowd of encouraging fans—people chanting your name and clapping for you no matter what. We rise to the occasion under praise like that. We stand taller, take risks we wouldn’t have otherwise. We puff out our chests and feel like maybe we can do this after all.
That’s what’s going on in our own heads.
When we are our own worst critics, it holds us back. It squashes our confidence, and makes us too self-conscious, timid, and afraid to do anything, let alone do it well.
Whereas being your own best friend changes everything. It has for me.
It’s taken a lot of time, prayer, experiences, and positive voices in my life to turn the critic ship around. It hasn’t been easy and it hasn’t been immediate.
But I can safely say that becoming my own best friend instead of my own worst critic has changed my life completely.
And that's the journey I want to take you on in this course. The key to confidence, success, and a life you love begins with your relationship with yourself. It's time to turn your worst critic into your very best friend.