Our life is a journey of piling things onto ourselves—covering ourselves with layers and layers of how we want to be seen, and who others expect us to be. The more layers we pile on the harder it is for anyone to get to know us, for us to be able to show anyone who we truly are, for us ever to feel connected. Because to feel connected, to feel truly understood and loved, we have to be known—not for our layers but for the beating heart underneath them all.
So that’s what we’re doing. In the next 6 weeks, we’re taking off the layers one by one. We’re going to do the hard, beautiful work of revealing the true us to the women around our table, and the relationships that will form along the way will change our lives. Friendships like that always do.
Over the course of six weeks, we'll be diving deep into our friendships by sharing about...
Before we can build new friendships or go deeper in our existing ones, we need to know where we all come from. Some of us have a great history with female friendships, but for many of us, female friendships are a sore subject. We've been hurt, rejected, or feel like we don't have the relationships everyone else has. This week we're going to get it all out on the table. We're going to figure out where we're all starting so we can begin a new chapter together.
Whether we're single, married, dating, or engaged, none of us quite know what we're doing. Starting this week, instead of comparing our relationships to what we see around us, we're going to get in the ring together. We're going to help each other out, offering support, and advice, and resting in the fact that whatever we're going through, we don't have to do it alone.
So often we wrestle with our faith alone. We feel like we need to have it together on the surface, while on the inside we're wrestling with doubt, hard questions, or just feeling like we're an overall disappointment to God. But we don't have to walk the journey of faith alone. It's time to get real and start walking together.
Whether you come from a great family, or a hard family situation, for so many of us, we don't feel known until people know about our family. This week we're going to open up about what we've experienced and where we come from.
So many of us are trapped in our own heads. We are living with our own worst critic, feeling overwhelmed by the negative thoughts we have about ourselves. To make matters infinitely worse, we look around at women who seem perfect—like they don't have an insecurity in the world. This week we're going to open up about the things that make us feel ashamed, realizing that we're not alone in our insecurity. Then we're going to tackle our own worst critics together.
This week is a commissioning week. We're going to dig into our dreams together, hearing about and discussing the impact we were each created to make in the world. Then we're going to get our hands dirty in each other's dreams — figuring out how we can help, and how we can come behind our world-changing sisters.
- A group of girls who casually know each other but are looking to form the kind of deep community we all so desperately need
- A group of friends who already know each other well but want to go deeper in their friendships
- Small groups/life groups/Bible studies
- The small group time during a women's retreat
How much time will this realistically take?
I recommend allowing at least an hour and a half for each week's topic. Depending on your group you may want more time, but allowing yourself at least an hour and a half will give you enough time to get through the questions.
Is this the same thing as a Bible study?
It's not. While there is a section where we talk about faith and our relationship with God, there is no Bible study within this workbook. However, this could be a great way to start out a Bible study—a way of deepening friendships before diving into a study together.
Would this work to do at a retreat or over a weekend?
Absolutely. In fact, that's one of my favorite ways to do it. When testing the workbook, I rented a cabin with a group of friends and went away for the weekend. We used this as our discussion guide and walked out of the weekend so much closer than we walked in.
I'm new in town and would love to do this, but I don't know anyone to invite to be a part of it. What do you recommend?
I totally hear you. When I moved to Nashville I didn't know anyone either. The first 100 groups to sign up will get a supplementary eBook I wrote on that very topic: How to do you find friends when you're starting from scratch? I'd recommend snagging one of those early spots and a handful of workbooks. That way once you work your way through the eBook, you can then go through the workbook with the new friends you make!
How many workbooks do I need?
The way we have designed them is for each member of the group to have their own book. There is space within the workbook for personal reflection, and art prints that are designed to be cut out of each workbook and framed. (They're so cute! We can't wait for you to see them!) Because we designed them this way, we humbly ask you not to make copies or share workbooks. The profits from the workbooks allow us to pay our bills which allows us to continue doing what we believe we are meant to do in the world. And when illegal copies are made, or workbooks are passed around, it really hurts our ability to continue. Thank you so much for your consideration and respect!
What ages is this appropriate for?
I recommend this workbook for women 14 years and older. While it's not inappropriate for girls under 14, they'll just get more out of it if they're a bit older. However, if you'd like to take a group of middle schoolers through this workbook, that is totally possible. You might just want to alter the stories I tell in the beginning to fit their stage of life a bit better. There is no maximum age recommendation. I've had women in college go through this workbook and love it, and women in their 50's go through it and love it. The things we talk about aren't age specific — they're things we all go through.
Could this work for a men's group?
I wouldn't recommend it. The book was written for women from the perspective of a woman. I would rather have men go through something specifically written for them.
Is this only for Christians?
No, it's not! There is a section where we talk about faith—whether we have one, why or why not, our biggest questions about God, etc. But you won't find the workbook packed full of language you need a degree in theology to decode.